What happens when we do make the same mistake again? Are we owning up to it and taking responsibility for our actions? Or are we pretending it didn't happen and expect others to do the same? Considering others' feelings and thoughts is important.
Certain mistakes may not be so serious and can be easy to overcome, such as cheating on your diet, not picking up the kids on time, forgetting deodorant (CAN be serious, depending on your scent, he he), and so on. Learn to let go and move on. Yet there are times we really could kick ourselves in our own derrière, if we could. Yes, we still have them as born again believers.
Sometimes our mistakes may have been good intentions that fell flat. Whatever the case may have been, our mistakes are still opportunities to learn and grow, not condemn and live in regret. Here are 5 key things that are helpful, following a mistake:
- Admit your mistake and address it- if another person was offended or involved, arm yourself with strength from above, be bold and courageous, and talk to them about it. Let them speak and don't get offended. Listen. If you know they're right, don't expect them to turn off their emotions like a light switch. Right or wrong, their feelings are theirs and they will deal with them. Pray for them.
- Move on-Don't continue to bring it up (unless there are issues left to deal with).
- Renew your mind and refresh your spirit- No matter what kind of mistakes you make, remember that you CAN change. Don't get discouraged. Continue to seek God with all your heart and study His Word. His Spirit does the work in you.
- Remember that you ARE a new creation in Christ Jesus- We cannot dwell on mistakes, but we cannot make excuses for them either and/or ignore them. We are a new creation and though our flesh tries to overpower the spirit, we can still practice self-control. We have it, even if we didn't have it before. We must use it and exercise it daily.
- Forgive- Sometimes our "oopsies" are due to unforgiveness toward someone. This causes the resentment to be stirred from time to time until it boils over and we are unable to contain it. Did we snap at someone? Why? If they have nothing to do with our bad mood, then we are still wrong to take it out on someone else. If they have hurt or offended us in the past, let's not keep it hidden in our hearts only for it to shoot out of our mouths with hurtful words. Let's not do things out of spite. Remember, if we do not forgive others, God will not forgive us.
I don't get tired of saying that we must examine ourselves. Deep in our hearts, past habits, hurts, and memories are rooted deeply, blossoming, as we water them without realizing it perhaps, with lack of prayer, not enough Bible studying, excuses, and wrong perspectives. Choose to not live this way anymore.
I don't look forward to making more mistakes, but the reality is that I likely will make them. What I do look forward to is the way the Father so gracefully allows a learning experience and even blessings to come out of those mistakes. Whether I was to blame or someone else, God makes all things work together for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). I glory in this Truth.
Seek Him. Release yourself from the burden of condemnation and move on. If you've repented and asked God to forgive you, you're not showing trust in His forgiveness if you can't forgive yourself. He sets us free. Let's not hold ourselves captive when He has already unlocked the gates to freedom.