A few faces of depression that may not always be obvious are:
- The "everything's alright" face.
- The "I'm mad at the world" face.
- The "I'm really annoyed, don't talk to me" face.
- The "Poor me" face
- The "green (jealousy)" face.
- The "kids and/or husband are driving me crazy" face.
- The "denial" face.
- The "I want to be alone" face.
- The "nothing will ever change" face.
- The "where is God" face.
Not every emotion or frustration is a sign of depression. I'm coming from my own experience. I was a young bride, at 21, and went into marriage with emotional issues that were still undealt with. Was it my husband's fault? No. Did he have to deal with it? Oh, yes. Especially since I, myself, wasn't aware I was dealing with depression.
All I knew was that life was what it was, I had to deal with it, keep a straight face, and save the tears for after bedtime, when my son or family wouldn't see.
Where was the joy of marriage and motherhood? Where was the joy of seeing my husband get home from work? Why was I so unhappy? Besides the serious issues my husband and I faced, I felt I had every reason to be happy and yet, I wasn't. I didn't know what I wanted, but I knew I wanted it NOW. No, I didn't want anything. I wanted to run away and be alone. Even after we moved out of my parents' home and we were on our own, I felt frustrated. See, it's still hard to explain and put into words all the different emotions, which often made no sense to me. And I was the one feeling them.
The faces of depression were getting old. I was usually wearing the "everything's alright" face. Never take for granted the simple question of, " How are you?" If you ask it, take your time to listen, don't say it as you walk away. If they ask you, depending on who it is, be honest and seek help, if needed. Don't keep it to yourself. Depression is serious. It's a powerful trap the devil can use to keep you tamed.
Put down the many faces of depression and seek the Face of your Heavenly Father.
Here are some ways you can put the faces down:
- the "everything's alright" face : If everything is not alright, pray, take action, and seek help, if needed. Don't take it lightly. Communicate with your spouse.
- the "I'm mad at the world" face : This gets us nowhere. One situation or event should not have such a strong hold and control over us that it affects us so. This is not godly and it can even be, dare I say it- childish. Pray for a different perspective on things and forgive what must be forgiven.
- the "I'm really annoyed, don't talk to me" face: I'm sure we don't want to be seen as anything other than kindhearted and approachable. This face gives the wrong idea to people that we don't care and don't want to hear what they have to say. Pray that you can find joy in your daily routine and the people you come across; even family. Don't let your circumstance bring out any ugliness in you.
- the "poor me" face: If we feel sorry for ourselves and make it clear in our speech, we walk around defeated. If others perceive our self-pity, they may not want to be around us. Remember WHO you are and WHOSE you are, in Christ. I don't watch Joyce Meyer much, but I remember I heard her say once, "You can be pitiful or you can be powerful, but you can't be both." Pray for a new perspective on things and remember what matters most. If circumstances are difficult, confide in someone you trust and seek help. Pray, always.
- the "green" face: Jealousy is ugly. Don't go there. Seek God and know you have all you need or it's on its way, but you have a part to play too. Determine if what you are coveting is something you truly need or just desire. Material things have no eternal value. Your life is unlike any other and the grass isn't greener on the other side. Trust that God gave you and allowed what you need, and will lead you along the right path, if you continue to seek Him, and abide in Him.
- the "kids and husband are driving me crazy" face: This is quite common. We MUST remember how blessed we are to have a family and roof over our heads. Relax and make time for friends. Pray that you can offer grace to your family and create a safe haven at home that your family will be happy to come home to. Talk it over with your husband if any serious issues need to be addressed.
- the "denial" face: If something is the matter, say it. We are not meant to go through life on our own strength. We have God and we have family and friends. Take advantage of this blessing. Speak and continue to pray.
- the "I want to be alone" face: Go ahead. We all do need a break. Make time for yourself and make time for friends. But don't JUST keep to yourself. Notice your emotions and evaluate them. You do need fellowship with other sisters in Christ. It is not wise to isolate oneself when dealing with depression. Pray and step out of your comfort zone. Yes, it's comfy to be alone when dealing with possible depression. It's the easy way. You weren't made for easy. You were made for endurance with God by your side and His Spirit inside.
- the "nothing will ever change" face: You're absolutely right. Nothing will change if YOU do not. Pray and pour your heart out, but also take action. Don't have a defeated attitude and if you do, change it. Don't walk around with a face that declares it. Talk with your spouse; pray together.
- the "where is God?" face: God is ever-present. It is not the Lord that distances Himself. WE are usually the ones that do that, even when we need Him the most. Seek Him, glorify Him through your housework, your job, your relationships, everything. Worship Him. He is worthy, regardless of your emotions and circumstances. Continue to serve Him while you wait for your spiritual breakthrough or your situation to get better. Consider fasting. It is biblical and very needed in our walk with the Lord.
If you know someone you suspect might be dealing with depression or is just frustrated in any area of life, reach out to them. You don't have to bring up any subject in particular; simply have them over for coffee and/or lunch. Be a friend. Depending on the seriousness of the situation, express your concern and offer prayer.
We don't have to be unhappy. We have plenty to rejoice about. Remember your blessings and remember the God from Whom they flow.